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By: Queen of Shake Shake

Queen of Shake Shake — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 13:09:43 +0000

There are so many old, OLD mindsets that come out when a modern woman becomes a stay at home mom.

Just like I dared to take a 24 hours to myself this weekend and housesat for my boss. I asked Wally to do the laundry while was gone. I came back and the boys were out of shorts because someone didn’t do laundry.

I’ve learned to live with more mess. Believe me, when that second baby gets to be old enough to make a mess, watch! out! Hubs needs to be preparing himself for the messiness that is a family of four.

By: Chicken And Cheese Painful Irony

Chicken And Cheese Painful Irony — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 05:02:07 +0000

[...] this week’s knock-down-drag-out fight about the state of the household, we decided to tap into it to pay for a couple house [...]

By: Kaza

Kaza — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 15:41:20 +0000

Oh girl, I SO share your pain. When I took a leave from my grad program after our little one was born, I too felt I had stepped into the 1950s. And I’m like you, I just don’t have the need to clean and would rather (and do) spend my time on better things. We have had this fight SO many times. And it always does get better, but there are all of these weird assumptions that pop up out of the male subconscious when you’re no longer professional equals, even if temporarily. Because my husband is not that kind of guy, he’s totally liberal and educated, yet we had this same issue as soon as our baby was born and I was on leave.

By: karrie

karrie — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 10:01:29 +0000

re:But I’m cut from a different cloth. I’d rather write than sweep. I’d rather play that dust. I’d rather put off the laundry and go to the pool for the afternoon.

Same here. I hate the clutter, but given the option to ignore it, I usually do. It never ends.

By: justmylife

justmylife — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 03:21:38 +0000

My husband is good at starting “spring” cleaning and then leaving me with it! He did it again this weekend, he moved furniture and washed down 4 walls, I have done the rest and am still at it!

By: Kris

Kris — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 02:41:40 +0000

I had decided that it was easier to live in the misery of clutter and filth than it was to live with the misery of feeling like a maid to my “partner.” That was until the roach appeared last week (you know there’s never just one). Aieeee!

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 00:44:22 +0000

My husband often asks “we” questions that I know he really means, “get off your lazy bum and do X.” Oh how pissed I get. Oh how much MORE pissed I’d be if I’d heard it at 31 weeks, 6 days pregnant.

By: andi

andi — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 00:08:41 +0000

Ugh, that sucks. I remember being in and out of Emergency while hugely pregnant and working full-time and I still had to shovel the walk, cook dinner, and clean the house. Equality my ass!

All that matters is that you and the baby are safe and comfortable. The dirty house will just have to wait.

By: KD (A Bit Squirrelly)

KD (A Bit Squirrelly) — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 00:02:43 +0000

I don’t ask much of C but to take out the garbage. I usually end of doing it. I know I am doing a great thing for my family, even when I don’t feel like it!

By: Aimee Greeblemonkey

Aimee Greeblemonkey — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 21:50:17 +0000

This is a side note, but you are approaching the point where I had Declan (32 weeks) and I know it’s stupid of me, but I always get freaked out with friends at this point. What is my deal?