Comments on: On My Own

By: KarinGal

KarinGal — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 20:19:08 +0000

My husband and I also started dating on August 10, 1997. Now that’s just a strange little coincidence, aint it?

By: Momto4kidsny

Momto4kidsny — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 16:30:48 +0000

It’s these little breaks from each other that really bring you closer to the hubby! Mine does not travel but there have been a few times in our marriage that the kids and I had to stay with his mom to help her out. I don’t really want to say this but the nights are the hardest. Gaps really do close when one is away!
I hope the days will pass quick for you!

By: Kate

Kate — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 04:11:56 +0000

I love the line “gestating in his absence.” Also love the very real sentiment of gaps that widen and gaps that close. The stuff of marriage.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 03:12:32 +0000

My husband is also a PhD student. The months before his orals were brutal, but the months after were wonderful. We didn’t even realize how brutal the pre-test months were until the wonderfulness of the post-test months started.

When Mr. C gets back from Italy, your post-test months can start. I hope they are as wonderful as ours were.

By: Kaza

Kaza — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 02:14:45 +0000

I’ve been in a very similar place. These little absences, as tough as they are, end up being good for our marriages, I think.

And though you might not want to hear it, he’s right… you’re in the good stuff already. It’s hard not to get lost in the waiting for arrival, but life is really the journey itself. And you won’t believe me when I tell you this, but though I’m sitting in our first real house, I REALLY miss our little grad school apartment, warts and all. That might not help you now, I know, but I say it, just in case.

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 21:54:30 +0000

He’s a smart man. This is the stuff we’ll miss for sure when we’re old.

By: nutty mummy

nutty mummy — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 21:40:30 +0000

oooh… that made me cry. I really feel for you.. It’s must be so hard to be alone.
I hope time flies for you x

By: Rachael

Rachael — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 20:34:31 +0000

I got all teared up too. What a beautiful post. It’s so hard to be on your own, but sometimes it really reminds you why everything else is worth it. Good luck over the next 2 days, hopefully the time will fly by until he gets back.

By: Renee

Renee — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 20:05:10 +0000

That was beautifully put. Relationships are real, they have ups and downs but there is always something that reminds us why we are in them.

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 18:02:11 +0000

I had a long comment, then deleted it. Let’s just say you have stirred up feelings in me that reminded me of when hubby was in the service. Hugs to you!! Not too hard of a hug tho, Shaggy needs to cook longer!