Comments on: Working Girl

By: RC

RC — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 02:27:00 +0000

I could see this happening if I were to have a second child, as I see it happening with my Little Dude whenever others are around. He needs to know I’m his and he’s mine, and I wish I could find a way to let him know that will never change – no matter what life throws at us.

By: Christina

Christina — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 17:16:13 +0000

Cordy did a lot of the same when Mira was born. She was crazy manic, doing everything she could to get attention. She ignored Mira entirely, but her behavior took a dramatic dive and she became so, so needy.

I can tell you that it does get better – a lot better. You’ll probably want to give both kids away at some point before it happens, but eventually she’ll calm down once she gets used to her brother and realizes that just because he’s here doesn’t mean she’s going anywhere.

By: Beth

Beth — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 04:53:54 +0000

Beautiful post.

I felt the same way when my second was born. I did not have a blog back then, but I did have one of those old fashion paper journals and my entries were all about my older girl and how I missed her and worried about her.

It is a hard transition.

By: Emily R

Emily R — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 22:43:55 +0000

One of the first posts of yours I read was shortly after you found out you were pregnant, I think. And you were anxious about just this. This does pass, but it takes about 6 months for you and the firstborn to start knowing each other again.

By: LauraTheMum

LauraTheMum — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 04:33:48 +0000

wow. this spoke to me so completely. my sons are 6 months and 2 years & 6 months, and this transition period has been hard. it’s getting better and better each day as i learn to just let little things go, and learn to adjust to life with less sleep.

the yin and yang of my life…i know exactly what you mean. beautifully spoken. thank you for this post!

By: flutter

flutter — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 22:46:29 +0000

Oh little girl. She is so sweet

By: jen

jen — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 20:50:37 +0000

i was there…really…there. exactly where you are right now, just over a year ago!
what makes it a little easier for the big sister?? (not that you asked for my advice…)
jobs. mommy’s best helper. telling her about all the wonderful things that she can do (that the baby can’t do!). telling and retelling how she came to be and her birth story. videotaping her singing and dancing for the baby.
i’m not perfect…but looking back…all of those things seemed to help her transition, better.
luck to you. i’ll be thinking about you and yours.

By: Diane

Diane — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 20:10:39 +0000

This post made me cry because it spoke from exactly where I was a little less than one year ago.

By: Meg

Meg — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 18:24:33 +0000

“I wish I could tell her that she doesn’t need to work so hard. My eyes are big enough to see them both.”

Simply lovely.

No real words of wisdom here, just understanding and appreciation.

By: Joie

Joie — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 17:45:05 +0000

Beautiful, beautiful post. Someday, when she is older, she may read that(?) and I can’t imagine how loved she will feel.