Comments on: Something’s Gotta Give

By: Kim

Kim — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 01:22:10 +0000

When my first was a baby — he was a fusssssy one, and I had days where I didn’t eat until late in the day, days where I neglected myself too much, days that left deep scars on my sweet dreamy mother heart.

It was the spilled soy sauce in the fridge door that haunted me for weeks.

Shaggy will get older and be able to tell you where it hurts and Poo will start school eventually. Take care of you before anything else. EAT. And just know that it WILL get easier.

Oh, and I know it’s too late for this, but you can always stick the bananas in the freezer for next week. (Peel ‘em first.)

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:39:22 +0000

Try sharing your attention between three

We make sacrifices on behalf of the kids every day. The four year old just started doing ballet (if you can call it that). Her older sister started harping on about wanting to do it too…

“You can if you stop your swimming lessons”

“That’s not fair”

“Tough”

By: Christina

Christina — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 01:41:01 +0000

I’m only slightly ahead of you in the experience of juggling two kids, but I can tell you it does get easier. And right now, caring for yourself and the kids comes first. Let the dust settle on everything. Seriously. Better to have a dirty house and sanity. You won’t look back on this time years later and think, “I should have cleaned more.”

(Confession: we just cleaned out our garage for the first time since we moved in 4 years ago. I won’t even begin to tell you about the dust, dirt and dead bugs we found in there.)

By: Irene

Irene — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 15:53:03 +0000

You, yes YOU and the kids are the priority now. Nothing else comes first. All those other things are unimportant in the long run. Believe me, I am 54 years old and raised two kids, one of whom died 4 years ago. That teaches you what your priorities are. You and the kids and the rest comes somewhere way down the line, not to forget your husband, of course, but he is an adult and can take care of himself. Soothe yourself and the children, be kind and gentle and take your time.

By: Ami

Ami — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 13:19:58 +0000

I hate the guilt that tries to attach itself to motherhood. I really, really, REALLY hate the guilt. And the worst part is that we do it to ourselves. Think about this. You are teaching your daughter an incredible life lesson in prioritizing. We cannot do everything. Everyday somethings have to be scratched from the list and sometimes it sucks. But you are showing her that we can survive the scratching process. And while sometimes it’s not “fair” we can be strong enough to do it. And YOU are strong and YOU are surviving so take some pride in that.

By: flutter

flutter — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 02:08:50 +0000

and there will be times that it is at his cost, as well. And yours. That’s just what family is.

By: Christy

Christy — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 01:31:53 +0000

I understand. I really, really understand.

By: sam {temptingmama}

sam {temptingmama} — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 01:26:52 +0000

Don’t sweat the small stuff my friend. They will get done in time. For now just worry about you and the kiddos.

I haven’t washed my kitchen floor in 4 month, just spot clean here and there. Anyone want to say something about it I’ll punch them square in the privates.

By: Domestic Extraordinaire

Domestic Extraordinaire — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 01:23:45 +0000

She could help “play” with you and totally dig it. When Giggles was that age and the Chicken the age of your Shaggy. She loved to play with her-size Dirt Devil vacuum that really worked. And all the other pint sized things she had. At first when my MIL got her these things I thought she had fallen off her rocker. But they love to clean at this stage, Giggles felt needed, she could do something that the baby couldn’t. Plus when they get bigger cleaning isn’t something fun. we actually have video of Giggles begging to do the dishes at 4…its adorable.

By: Nan

Nan — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 00:07:36 +0000

Oh my goodness, I’ve been out of it and didn’t realise what was up with you! glad you’ve got great care and you know what the problem is… not knowing can be so scary! And the housework? It’ll wait for you. It’s not going anywhere… Alas!